Maryam Lemu – Talking About Sex and Intimacy Before Marriage

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The speaker discusses the importance of having sex during a wedding ceremony, as it is crucial to maintaining intimacy and couples' attraction. They advise against discussing sexual topics until one is married, as it is difficult to get into the details of the relationship. The speaker also advises against sharing sensitive information until the wedding is complete.

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			As a Muslim, how do you talk about
		
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			* and intimacy during courtship with the person
		
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			you want to get married to?
		
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			Well, you don't.
		
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			Keep those things until after you get married,
		
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			because you have the rest of your life
		
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			to discuss it, talk about your likes, your
		
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			dislikes, your fantasies, and then you explore and
		
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			bring them to life.
		
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			You see, my father during courtship warned me
		
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			about something.
		
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			He said, during courtship, do not let shaitan
		
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			be the third in the room.
		
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			And unfortunately, during those moments, because obviously you
		
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			can't ask such questions if there's a third
		
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			party, shaitan is the third in the room,
		
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			and he's just waiting to get to work.
		
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			He is waiting to plant seeds of lust
		
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			in your mind and that eagerness to say,
		
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			oh, maybe we let's start practicals before we
		
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			tie the knot.
		
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			So be very careful in the kind of
		
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			topics you discuss, especially because at that moment
		
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			of courtship, you're both in love, you're both
		
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			eager to be together and be united as
		
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			a couple and explore, right?
		
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			So wait, press pause, hold on until you
		
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			get married, and then you start having those
		
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			kind of discussions.